Have you ever felt that your partner does not love you as you want? Even though all the things you’ve sacrificed and given to your partner. If so, maybe you don’t understand the language of love for each other.
In the mid-1990s, a well-known marriage counselor in the United States, Gary Chapman, Ph.D, had written a book called “Five Love Languages”. Based on his thoughts, every human being has their own way to love their partners and feel loved by their partners. Here are the 5 love languages.
Praise and positive words
The expression of love expected by people in the language of love is in the form of praise and words that can convince your love. If your boyfriend is of this type, flood him with an affectionate saying, “I love you,” every day and don’t get bored praising and reminding him how much he really is worth to you. On the contrary, he cannot accept criticism or ridicule from you.
You don’t need to bother traiting at fancy restaurants or buying designer watches for people in this language of love. Just spend your time with him without interruptions like smartphone notifications or work you bring from the office. Don’t protest if he often asks you to meet.
Receive a gift
It is obligatory to bring them gifts or small gifts. Relax, you don’t need to buy expensive gifts. They are already happy when you bring them fried rice or their favorite snacks. They will greatly appreciate your efforts and attention when you bring gifts to them. Also make sure that you don’t forget your birthday or anniversary.
Usually those who have difficulty expressing their love will speak this language. He will be very happy if you want to help him distribute the questionnaire he is working on or buy tickets to watch first at the cinema for your date tonight. Anyway, he will be very happy when you want to help ease the burden.
People who use this language really enjoy intimate touches such as holding hands, rubbing their heads, kissing, hugging, and patting their shoulders. Especially when they are having a bad day. Your presence and touch can be very valuable in the eyes of your partner.
It’s natural to be different. Not that you and your partner are incompatible. You just have to be observant in assessing what languages your partner can understand. Happy translating love!